Comments on: A Feminist Disputes the ‘Marriage Strike’ http://blogwonks.com/2008/06/06/a-feminist-disputes-the-marriage-strike/ Opinion Matters Mon, 28 Sep 2009 03:19:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Mike Schmidt http://blogwonks.com/2008/06/06/a-feminist-disputes-the-marriage-strike/comment-page-1/#comment-1020 Mike Schmidt Tue, 28 Oct 2008 23:41:37 +0000 http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=2267#comment-1020 I am amazed, no stunned is more like it, that our law makers have been allowed to trash due process and the Constitution by placing (*) asterisks next to the Bill of Rights because I was born male. How did we ever get to the point where someone can actually be CRIMINALLY incarcerated for (supposedly) violating a CIVIL committment between consenting adults? I thought eliminating "Debtor Prisons" were one of the Founding Fathers' priorities. Just because they give it another name (violating a court order), that doesn't change the fact that thousands of men are in prison because they wouldn't (or worse, didn't have the money to) pay their ex-wives money. I live in SE Asia where men and masculinity are respected, so I don't worry about it happening to me, but I have sons who may live in the USA some day. I am amazed, no stunned is more like it, that our law makers have been allowed to trash due process and the Constitution by placing (*) asterisks next to the Bill of Rights because I was born male. How did we ever get to the point where someone can actually be CRIMINALLY incarcerated for (supposedly) violating a CIVIL committment between consenting adults? I thought eliminating “Debtor Prisons” were one of the Founding Fathers’ priorities. Just because they give it another name (violating a court order), that doesn’t change the fact that thousands of men are in prison because they wouldn’t (or worse, didn’t have the money to) pay their ex-wives money.

I live in SE Asia where men and masculinity are respected, so I don’t worry about it happening to me, but I have sons who may live in the USA some day.

]]> By: Richard http://blogwonks.com/2008/06/06/a-feminist-disputes-the-marriage-strike/comment-page-1/#comment-1021 Richard Sun, 26 Oct 2008 06:02:02 +0000 http://glennsacks.com/blog/?p=2267#comment-1021 This marriage strike is also going on because from day to day who knows what will happen. There has been a huge decline on respecting the commitment of being married. Marriage use to be something to really be proud of. Now its something people do if they like each other but show how much they are honored by committing adultery etc. Why say "I do" if tomorrow they say "I will" with someone else? There is too much pain in this world to allow more by being with someone who may cause it. People have lower self esteems, they lack knowledge of how to have an effective relationship. As the saying goes, "get married cheep, save up for the divorce." As a behavior analyst, I chose no married or dating. I'm a single parent, and have been through hell by negative behavior my ex's had from past pain. My job as a parent is to protect my children. To possibly get together with someone who's behavior may take away from my ability to do that is not for me. All these divorce laws, and domestic laws in general partially cause this as well. Who wants to marry into a system which is bias. Placing domestic relationships in the hands of the law has been damaging for decades. Their answer, toss people in jail, and rush couples through family court. The end result: additional problems are created, not solved. I decided I am on strike "til death do I part." I still like women, it's the inappropriate level of drama I can do without. This marriage strike is also going on because from day to day who knows what will happen. There has been a huge decline on respecting the commitment of being married. Marriage use to be something to really be proud of. Now its something people do if they like each other but show how much they are honored by committing adultery etc. Why say “I do” if tomorrow they say “I will” with someone else? There is too much pain in this world to allow more by being with someone who may cause it. People have lower self esteems, they lack knowledge of how to have an effective relationship. As the saying goes, “get married cheep, save up for the divorce.”
As a behavior analyst, I chose no married or dating. I’m a single parent, and have been through hell by negative behavior my ex’s had from past pain. My job as a parent is to protect my children. To possibly get together with someone who’s behavior may take away from my ability to do that is not for me. All these divorce laws, and domestic laws in general partially cause this as well. Who wants to marry into a system which is bias. Placing domestic relationships in the hands of the law has been damaging for decades. Their answer, toss people in jail, and rush couples through family court. The end result: additional problems are created, not solved. I decided I am on strike “til death do I part.” I still like women, it’s the inappropriate level of drama I can do without.

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