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What would happen, if one day the doors to family relations courthouses opened all across America, and black robed judges sat on their benches, bailiffs, court reporters and other court personnel manned their stations - - - but no one else ever again showed up in their courtrooms? Yes, that’s a very highly improbable scenario, given the sexual appetites of today’s men and women, but I can dream can‘t I?

It would indeed be an unusual day if such a scenario ever occurred, and if that scenario lasted a week, or a month, or a year, MY GOD, it could literally drive all the people who make a living off family relations court out of business. Imagine that.

Since I’ve had the audacity to hypothesize this improbable scenario, let me take it even a step further. How can a man facilitate the end of family relations courts? Warning: The sign post up ahead means you are about to enter, The Twilight of Family Law Zone.

#1  End all procreational sex

If you don’t have kids, you don’t pay child support, and child protective services can’t steal them.

Birth control, in my opinion, is the best option to ward off the possibility of parenthood, as I do not favor abortion (the killing of a viable human being). There are varieties of birth control devices on the market, none 100% effective, and none fool proof. There’s not an effective pill for men on the market, but research continues on that. Every man not now a parent should, in my opinion, take every precaution to avoid parenthood, given the monstrous atrocities that America’s family relations courts daily employ to destroy the lives of many good Fathers. What good is Fathering a lovely child, only to have it a very short time, then never, or rarely, see it again? Such is the very real possibility given the vast majority of rulings in family relations court, favoring Mothers as custodial parents. Needless to say, that’s the point at which Fathers often become nothing more than paychecks.

If only young men had men’s studies programs to the extent that women do, many young men could be taught the absolute imperative of avoiding unprotected reproductive sex. Such training could help them avoid the devastating effects of family dissolution and family relations court proceedings that many older men have gone through. Obviously, they would also be taught to avoid some really dangerous contacts with potentially deadly venereal diseases as well.

The beginning of reproductive choice for men begins with knowledge, and proceeds with wise use of that knowledge.

For those young men strong enough to abstain from sex, they are afforded the very safest protection from all of the maladies mentioned above, but life is a long road and it only takes one reproductive mishap to destroy a man’s life forever.

#2  End all involvement in marriage, or relationships that trigger common law marriage statutes

Marriage has long been an institution revered by societies, religions, families, etc., but have atrocities ensuing from family relations courts made the institution of marriage just too risky for men to be involved in?

# Ask a man who’s had to pay exorbitant alimony to a wife who decided to quit her job after marriage.

# Ask a man whose wife quit her job after marriage, then lies and claims her husband was abusively controlling the finances so she can get more money out of the divorce settlement.

# Ask a man whose wife cheated on him, then lied about it, then gave birth to a child that wasn’t his.

# Ask a man whose wife filed false accusations of domestic violence against him causing his arrest, humiliation, loss of employment, depression, etc. so she can game the legal system and get a leg up in the divorce proceedings.

In a previous article, I discussed whether marriage was too risky for a man to be involved in and my personal conclusion was, “Yes” from a number of perspectives.

http://mensnewsdaily.com/2007/08/11/is-it-unwise-for-a-man-to-marry-in-todays-climate-of-misandry/

Is It Unwise for a Man to Marry in a Climate of Misandry?

“Given the sorry state of affairs we find ourselves in today in family relations, in a nation of gender feminist laws, it is my opinion that it is extremely unwise for any man to marry.

Given the sorry state of affairs we find ourselves in today in family relations in a number of Churches and Synagogues across America, it is my opinion it is extremely unwise for any man to marry.”

and

“Put yourself totally at a woman’s mercy, get married.”

and

“Marriage is a social injustice where men incur all financial risks.”

#3 …

 Uh, there is no #3 that I can think of. Number 1 and number 2 should bring about the complete demise of the family relations courts and the massive industry that leeches off family dissolution and misery, including Child Support Services.

The personal misery that many men incur in their lives could further be abated by avoiding all contact whatsoever with the opposite sex, thereby destroying the domestic violence industry and the sexual harassment industry. The later may somehow manage to survive as I’ve heard speakers at sexual harassment workshops say that any behavior, avoiding contact with the opposite sex, for fear of being accused of sexual harassment, is sexual harassment. Still, covert avoidance of the opposite sex would at least make misandrist lawyers and politicians really have to stretch to continue their ruthless harvesting of Fathers’ and men’s financial assets.

Imagine how women’s studies programs would spin this new, insidious tactic of “Patriarchy” to (in their viewpoint) further oppress women through devious power and control guerilla tactics. I can hear their comments now, “Men are abusing women by withholding sex as punishment,” and “They’re denying women the children the have a right to demand in their bodies by choice.” Hmm, I guess they’ll have to revise history some more and destroy all the old women’s studies texts that said, “Heterosexual relations with men are oppression to women.”

Women’s commissions that endlessly propose policies to further the rights, privileges and pampering of women would no doubt vigorously confront this new, insidious tactic by Patriarchy to gain back “power and control.” If sperm supplies became totally unavailable, no doubt taxpayer’s money would have to fund research to find new ways to fertilize female eggs, or clone people. Politicians would have to find new ways to punitively tax men to support the research. New programs and services would have to be built for a brave new village of people who would develop and further new procreational methods, childcare facilities, etc. - but I digress.

No doubt there will never be and end to the war on Fathers and men, no matter how hard Fathers and men work to restore their rights. Gender feminist influence in law is a misandrist reality that will plague the lives of all males for the foreseeable future, in my opinion.

Men must innovate and look at every possible way in which they can hold off the onslaught of male destroying policies, legislation and gender feminist tyranny. Turning off one light switch can save a little electricity. One man’s effort to avoid the enormous negative consequences of association with the opposite sex, can save the destruction of one man‘s life in family relations court. If one man’s life can be spared the living hell so frequently visited on Fathers and men by family relations court, this article will have been worth more than the time and effort it took to write - much more.